With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, there simply must be an article all about love in the HUB, right? Maybe one that can even help us make the magic of Valentine’s day an all-year-round thing. Well, I took it upon myself to compile some of the greatest love advice in one article. For your convenience, of course! These tips have the potential to not only make your relationships with people better but also the one you have with yourself. So, without further ado let’s get into the tea.
Disclaimer: I am not a love-guru. These are tips that I can share from my personal experience and some I have seen or read about online. I actually don’t do some of the things I am going to mention (lol) but I realize it and I am trying.
All relationships are different
It is important to start with this one. Never compare your past relationships to your current ones. That also means other people’s relationships. No two relationships are the same. What works for someone else might be disastrous for you. The only thing that concerns you is your current situation and if you are happy!
Support your partner
Always be supportive of the ones you love. Even if you think what they want is stupid or a waste of time. At the end of the day, their dream career, goals and whatnot are important to them. And since they are important to you, a supportive attitude is a must. Just imagine if they thought your dream was a waste of time. It’s awful, isn’t it? Disclaimer: Don’t forget your own dreams and goals while trying to always be there for your partner!
Speak even if you don’t feel like it
Classic scenario: something they did bothered you. A lot. And you don’t feel like explaining, fighting, or talking about it at all. Well, if you hold all those bad emotions in, they start stacking up after a while, and subconsciously or not, you start resenting the person. We sure don’t want that, right? That is why open communication is a key ingredient in every healthy relationship. Just make yourselves talk it out even if it is the last thing that you want at that moment. Don’t forget to keep a good tone and actually listen to what the other person says and thinks. Also, never and I repeat never go to sleep mad at each other. That is just a recipe for disaster.
Be your own person
Some people tend to become consumed by their relationships and that is normal (kinda) unless you lose yourself along the way. What I mean is that maybe you spend all your time together or you take them when going out with your friends, or you share the same hobby. That is all fine, of course, but you have to make sure you have your “me time” and that you go out with your friends alone at times, and you make time for a hobby of your own. Your whole world should not revolve around one another, That is just not what is best for you long-term even if at the moment it is all your care about.
Learn when to compromise and when not to
Compromise might be a triggering word for some of you (must be all those earth or fire placements in your natal chart ). Well, guess what, it is time for you to grow up and start acting like an adult. I know it might be a hard fact to swallow but being always right is not all there is in life. Sometimes you need to let go, make a compromise, and be happy instead. However, making a compromise with something big and important that matters a lot to you, is a no-go. You have to learn the difference between standing behind what you love (or want) and being petty.
I hope that you got inspired to try and be better in your relationships. There is always room for growth and learning new things. Even if you are a teacher (or a staff-member) already in your 40s, happily married with 2 kids, 3 dogs, and 1 fish. Remember to always try to be a better person in general. Let’s try to carry the romance that Valentine’s day brings with us always!
