In this week for Off Your Chest, come check out the confessions we’ve collected in the box for this week.

If you’re new here, this is what we be doin’ over here:

Y’all we been doing this read thing for a while, but since some of y’all have been having a hard time finding your confessions, we hope writing this article á la Carrie Bradshaw can help you guys navigate all the confessions better. And if you don’t know who Carrie Bradshaw is, boy do I got a show for you.  

The show is Sex and the City, it’s  a good show I promise.  

This week’s topic is about spreading happiness and stuff… so we decided to focus it on COMPLIMENTS! We picked up all the confessions from the boxes this week and sorted out all the nice ones amongst the very crazy apples and found some cute ones we’d like to share with the rest of y’all. We decided to tone down the spice for a bit but don’t worry, it’ll be back soon enough.  

Remember; be nice! (I guess…) 

CONFESSION #1: Be The Subject, Not The Object 

This is really sweet. 🙂

Thank you anon for sending in such a lovely confession. If there’s anything I could say, it would probably be that growth takes time. And it looks different for everyone. Patience is key. Healing isn’t linear. You know all the good stuff… yada yada. But the thing is, part of loving yourself is also being patient with yourself when things get tough. Like dude, it’s o-kay. Self-love isn’t something you earn, it’s a gift you give to yourself. And while we’re on the topic of self-love, I truly believe that your purpose in life shouldn’t be about loving yourself. Hear me out… instead it should be to love being yourself. Wait seriously, walk with me.  

I read this a few years ago on some random corner on the internet and it kinda stuck with me. So I’m gonna tell you my own interpretation of it. If your goal is to love yourself, then your focus is only directed inward, toward yourself. You end up watching from the sidelines, constantly watching yourself from the outside… disconnected… trying to find the “correct feelings towards yourself or you end up building some version of yourself you can “approve” of.  

Do you think that’s fair to yourself?  

Now, if your goal is to love being yourself, then your focus is directed on living life. That’s it. On living and making decisions based on what makes you happy. What fulfils you. One could argue that this might be borderline hedonistic, but I don’t care girl. Living life and making decisions based on what brings you pleasure, and fulfillment sounds way better to me than changing parts of yourself to meet the standards of some idealized version you have of yourself in your head.  

Be the subject, not the object. YOU are experiencing life; life is not experiencing you.  

Jeez, the least we could do as people is take anon’s advice and give ourselves some grace from time to time. That’s why I say self-love is not earned. It is a gift you give to yourself, an act of kindness from you, to you.  

CONFESSION #2: Be Nice!<3 

Thanks for sending this in anon.  

 I hope you’re doing well. This is great advice. You don’t really know what battles people are fighting, so remember to be kind when you can.  

CONFESSION #3: =) 

This kind of speaks for itself.                                                                         Confession #3 pic here 

Thanks for the smiley.    

CONFESSION #4: Cool ass hair! 

I have a feeling I know who this is about. Regardless, super cute compliment. Hope they see this boo. 

CONFESSION #5: What an aura…. 

This is sooooo cute bro. You know, I’m not one for bossing people around, (I am lying, I’m bossy as hell) but……. I think you should have gone for it. Worst case scenario: she would have looked at you crazy and said to leave her alone. Probably-what-would-have-happened-scenario: You would have made her day.  

You seem like a kind person, so why not spread that to the world? Or in this case, at BUAS. God knows we need it over here. I get it’s scary to approach people at random, but you’d be surprised at how receptive people are if you’re just nice and cordial, dude.  

Again, you never know what battles people are fighting, so being kind always helps. Who knows? It could have been the magic potion they needed that day to keep fighting. Regardless dawg, you’re awesome for this and I hope you know you’re super appreciated. Now more than ever we need kind souls in the world. Thanks for sharing this with us. 

 Anwzzzzzzz dorks! Hope you guys enjoyed this lovely read for Off Your Chest, issue #5. 

Enjoy this random graphic I found that says top secret. Kind of feels relevant to like our whole thing. Go watch Sex and the City and remember…. Be nice!